Many people in romantic relationships are overly concerned about the outcome. Can we make it to the end? Will he marry me? Will we get married? Thinking too much about these questions can turn the sweetness of love into bitterness. You are always worrying about the future, so you have no energy to enjoy the present. If you can’t even live well in the present, how can you expect a bright future? The future is not something you can imagine, but something that needs to be achieved step by step.
The outcome is not something you can control. However, what you can control is the present, today, and this moment. If you are happy now, then you have this happiness right now. The happiness of this moment is something you have truly experienced and no one can take it away. Who can predict the future? Maybe you will get married, or maybe you won’t. But no matter what the outcome is, the happiness you share together is real. Experiencing happiness is not a loss.
Enjoy every stage of a romantic relationship. The passion of the infatuation period, the sweetness of the passionate love period, and the stability of the ordinary period. Each stage has its own unique beauty. Don’t rush to skip them. If you are in a hurry for the outcome, you will miss the process. The process is the most precious, while the result is just a momentary thing. You so desire a certain moment, but you miss countless beautiful things during the process. Is this worth it? Not worth it. Think carefully, what you remember are those moments, not the result. The result is already predetermined. What do you still remember? What you remember are those moments that made you fall in love. Moments are the eternal.
Don’t give up just because you’re afraid of losing. You’re afraid of breaking up, so you don’t dare to fully commit. You’re afraid of getting hurt, so you don’t dare to truly like. But by doing so, you’ll get nothing. You won’t have happiness, sweetness, or the feeling of being in love. You’re just protecting yourself. You protect yourself well, but what you protect yourself from is nothing. It’s not worth it. Be brave and love. Even if it ends in a breakup in the end. At least you’ve loved and felt happy, experienced love. You’re much better than those who have never dared to love. Those who have loved aren’t afraid of breaking up because they know that the next relationship will come. While those who dare not love are always trapped in the previous relationship and can’t get out.
